Saturday, August 7, 2010

It has to be noted.....

.....One Whole Year.....


You know, it's been a year....
No, not since I started writing on this website, but since I got married...


And what a year it's been... I'm sure the last few posts have given you some insight into our lives over the last 12 months, and the... well, shall we say 'challenges'... newly married life has presented us with.


But for the first time in 12 months, we took the time to celebrate our anniversary with a nice dinner, wine, cocktails, etc. And we took time to reflect...


Here's a snapshot of our first year.............


  1. The wife was laid off as we returned from our honeymoon
  2. Our landlord kindly decided the best financial option for her was to sell up (not so great for us ...EVICTION...)
  3. After extensive searching, we both became employed again... YAY!!!
  4. After 5/6 months consecutively, we both then became unemployed again.... not quite so yay...
  5. The wife then found a better job, the one she is still currently in/enjoying
  6. I then spent 3 weeks in hospital (3 separate admissions) for a HEADACHE!
  7. I then became employed again, also in a job that is still current/enjoyable
So what can I say, it's been a ...challenge??

But on our anniversary, we talked about our first year, and how, even through all of that, we've grown together, and forged a bond that we both see as a building block to start forming the rest of our lives on...
I know sometimes it seems sappy/kitsch to hear couples talk about how much they love one another, and so I won't...

We talked about how things have been difficult, all of the tough decisions, the challenges in building a relationship and aclimatising to living as a married couple. But that through all of these challenges, we have come out stronger, more resilient, and closer than we could have ever imagined going into this endeavour together.

What I will say is that for anybody who may read this, or for my wife (who almost definitely will), I only hope that you will not necessarily know the trials and complications we have experienced, but will know the support, trust, confidence, and dedication that we have found through these experiences...

I only have one more thing to say....

To my loving/caring/generous/beautiful/graceful/honest/trusting/amazing/indescribable wife....
Thankyou
  • For agreeing to marry me
  • For putting up with my quirks
  • For not saying what I'm sure I sometimes deserve
  • For saying what I'm completely sure I dont, and
  • For never giving up on us...
As you said, you are the head to my heart, and the words to my song...

Your Husband

Saturday, July 31, 2010

Step 2

You're HOW OLD???


So, based on our last encounter in this blog, you would assume the worst... or at least that's what I would assume...


In life, we have our ups and downs, and downs, and downs, and a few more downs... I couldn't help but overhear the other day, 3 men at a bar having a conversation. Tits, beer, and cursing... So, sounds like a perfectly reasonable kind of conversation for a few men in a bar, yes??? But there I sat, passing silent (and maybe sometimes not so silent) criticism on my peers.


And so I had to ask myself... These idiots I criticize, you know the ones... people who can't hold down a decent conversation, can't drive without using the horn, push people out of the way because their life is far more important than yours... Am I turning into one of them??


A few years ago, I was that guy, swearing, perving, drinking, more or less of the impression that I would always be young and carefree, going where the wind took me, living life to the fullest, hour at a time kind of thing... Then something happened...


I got OLD........ really fast...........


Not that I know how this happened, and you would be incorrect that it was a reflection on my newly married status, but it happened almost overnight...


You know you've really got to start considering how old you're acting when you start hearing 'when I was that age' and 'what is wrong with kids these days?' coming from your own mouth... I've turned into my father... OVERNIGHT!!!


Now, I must admit, my father is not a bad man to turn into, he has been very successful through his life, and I would be lucky to turn out with half as many achievements under my belt by his age, but really?? When did I turn into an old man??


But we have to way up the pros and cons here... There are benefits to being in this situation, for example, I much prefer dinner parties to the blind drunk evening at the pub (not least for the fact that my bedroom goes from an hour to a minute away). Unfortunately, the cons are that nowadays, I find myself biting my tongue A LOT more... A couple of times in the last few weeks, I think I may have even come close to detaching it.


So maybe I have to try to hold my tongue rather than biting it, consider that the idiocy of youth is something that I am not all that recently removed from, and start to work on my "tolerance".


But for the meantime, we'll make the best of what life throws at us, and if life continues to throw good wine, good food, an amazing wife, and a marriage to stand the test of time at me, then hey... who am I to argue???






In retrospect.........
You know, I can look back on the last few years of my life, and commentate on how old I got, or how critical I have become, but I always fail to mention quite how much all these things are indicative (in a good way) of the new life I share with my wife.


I may be sometimes bitter, sometimes conceited, never modest, always highly strung...
But all of these things fail to taint the support and dedication I have behind me.... I may be getting older every day, but I have a woman that makes me feel as young and carefree as the day I met her...


I know this is a bit sentimental, but hey... us oldies have a tendency to get a bit sentimental every now and again...


'Til next time

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Step 1

So you’ve realised you’re a neurotic froot loop?? Now what??

I guess they sat knowledge is the first step towards recovery, closely followed by admission… What they don’t tell you is just how far apart those steps are.

I mean, my real problem is not making the admission that I have the skeletons in my closet (lets admit it, we all have them), my problem is that even though I admit I have those skeletons, and that I want to get rid of them, it’s really not so easy to find that motivation to lead you there.

Determination/Conviction/Inspiration…
All words that roll ever so easily off the tongue, but maybe not so easy to commit to on the follow through.

So a bit of a recap ????

I guess the last 10 months have been both the happiest and the hardest of my life so far. It’s been a rollercoaster, that’s for sure. So it all started on the 7th of August 2009… As my lovely wife describes it,  the day we ‘got hitched’. But since then… well it’s been interesting…

I mean… 3 job losses, 1 eviction of sorts, 3 weeks in hospital, and all of the inevitable financial hardships that go along with the job losses, not to mention the GFC, what can I say… it’s been fun. But my one constant, my anchor, my umbrella when the proverbial hits the fan, has been my wife. She has held together our lives when her ever reliable husband (yep… that’s me) has been… well, let’s say less than reliable.

I must admit, we’ve had our ups and downs. But to finally come face to face with your inadequacies, there’s really no feeling that compares. Now don’t get me wrong here, there’s no reason to place the blame for any of these anywhere by squarely at my feet.

Sometimes I guess you just hit that point in your life that you need to confront your demons head on. For me, that happens to be now… and I guess a large part of that process is sharing that journey with any of you might be interested. You’re bound to find heartfelt outpourings that happen to come out into cyberspace (it’s as good a place as any isn’t it?), maybe some interesting discoveries that I found intriguing, and maybe a quote or two that I just found ridiculously funny.

So if you happen to stay tuned, please do… If not, no worries… This may be something that interests you, maybe not. For me, this is just a commentary on one man(me)’s journey to regain his sanity, his life and his future…

It’s been a pleasure writing to you… whoever you may be…
Talk Soon

Monday, May 31, 2010

To my loving wife...

I know this blog was designed to be a commentary such as yours in form of witty observations on our newly married life...

But in further thought, I realise how much more competent you are at this sort of writing, so I put myself in the situation of trying to create an online journal to note my observations... but of what??

Then I finally realised... my life is worthy of the observations I am making... So I've come to a decision... I will use this space to create a running commentary on our life, but from my perspective...

So I've decided to write a 12 step program... Well, that's the idea. I'm not sure that I can cover all of this process in 12 steps, so it may blow out a bit, but that's the general idea...

And now... on to the first step...